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Conception: Katharina Micada
Speaker: Katharina Micada
with friendly authorization from http://www.youtube.com/user/UnsereKindheit

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“The Roots of Violence are NOT Unknown
The misled brain and the banned emotions

The Facts:

1. The development of the human brain is use-dependent. The brain develops its structure in the first four years of life, depending on the experiences the environment offers the child. The brain of a child who has mostly loving experiences will develop differently from the brain of a child who has been treated cruelly.

2. Almost all children on our planet are beaten in the first years of their lives. They learn from the start violence, and this lesson is wired into their developing brains. No child is ever born violent. Violence is NOT genetic, it exists because beaten children use, in their adult lives, the lesson that their brains have learned.

3. As beaten children are not allowed to defend themselves, they must suppress their anger and rage against their parents who have humiliated them, killed their inborn empathy, and insulted their dignity. They will take out this rage later, as adults, on scapegoats, mostly on their own children. Deprived of empathy, some of them will direct their anger against themselves (in eating disorders, drug addiction, depression etc.), or against other adults (in wars, terrorism, delinquency etc.)

Questions and Answers:

Q: Parents beat their children without a second thought, to make them obedient. Nobody, except a very small minority, protests against this dangerous habit. Why is the logical sequence (from being a misled victim to becoming a misleading perpetrator) totally ignored world-wide? Why have even the Popes, responsible for the moral behaviour of many millions of believers, until now never informed them that beating children is a crime?

A: Because almost ALL of us were beaten, and we had to learn very early that these cruel acts were normal, harmless, and even good for us. Nobody ever told us that they were crimes against humanity. The wrong, immoral, and absurd lesson was wired into our developing brains, and this explains the emotional blindness governing our world.

Q: Can we free ourselves from the emotional blindness we developed in childhood?

A: We can – at least to some degree – liberate ourselves from this blindness by daring to feel our repressed emotions, including our fear and forbidden rage against our parents who had often scared us to death for periods of many years, which should have been the most beautiful years of our lives. We can’t retrieve those years. But thanks to facing our truth we can transform ourselves from the children who still live in us full of fear and denial into responsible, well informed adults who regained their empathy, so early stolen from them. By becoming feeling persons we can no longer deny that beating children is a criminal act that should be forbidden on the whole planet.

Conclusion:

Caring for the emotional needs of our children means more than giving them a happy childhood. It means to enable the brains of the future adults to function in a healthy, rational way, free from perversion and madness. Being forced to learn in childhood that hitting children is a blessing for them is a most absurd, confusing lesson, one with the most dangerous consequences: This lesson as such, together with being cut off from the true emotions, creates the roots of violence.

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I realise that violence is not inborn and is learnt from adults. I think when little children are hit by someone, their natural tendency is to hit back (or to move away from harm). Yet if they are not allowed to defend themselves, they will suppress their anger against their parents who hurt them, as noted by the video, and if left unresolved, the energy will surface in future in the form of aggression towards others or oneself. I am learning that the way to be free from the unresolved feelings of anger and hurt is to face them and express them in safe ways, such as meditating, sharing about it with close friends, feeling the emotions, sports and other physical activities and so on.

I think most parents tend to treat their own children based on how they used to be treated by their own parents when they were young. Hence, they often resort to using physical force to punish their children because they lack emotional resources and parenting skills. Traditional cultures in conservative societies tend to reinforce the idea that spanking or caning is normal too. But I think it is possible to be free from the vicious cycle in families when new parents choose not to make the same mistakes as their own parents, and make efforts to bring up their own children with loving guidance and gentle nurturing instead.


“Man Prayer” – A postmodern definition of masculinity

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Violence against women hurts everyone, including men. We invite our brothers to take up this cause, and be free from the limiting structures of our modern definition of masculinity! #MenRise

http://onebillionrising.org

Here’s sharing this video on “man prayer” I watched just now, which is meant to “invite our brothers to take up this cause (of ending violence against women), and be free from the limiting structures of our modern definition of masculinity”. I agree with its postmodern definition of masculinity, which is about having confidence that comes from the depth of his being and understanding that vulnerability is his greatest strength. Yes, perhaps it can be said that a postmodern man is one who creates space rather than dominates it, who appreciates listening more than knowing, who seeks kindness over control, who cries when the grief is too much, who refuses any act of violence, who cherishes touch more than performance and the experience more than getting there, and is brave enough to share his fear and shame as well as gather other men to do the same, as mentioned in the prayer. Yes, and may the resonance of that love translates into loving all women and living things.

1BRSD “Break The Chain” Flashmob San Diego

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The San Diego One Billion Rising Crew pulls off a “Break the Chain” flashmob in Balboa Park on February 2, 2013. This is part of ONE BILLION RISING, a global movement to end violence against women.

On 2/14/13:
STRIKE at 2:14 pm for 20 minutes. See our website for mini-rising locations.
MARCH at 4:30 pm at City Hall with Mayor Bob Filner. See our website for march route.
DANCE at 6:30 pm at the Organ Pavilion with a lineup of special guests and musical artists (free!)

www.1billionrisingsd.com
www.onebillionrising.org

Break the Chain Lyrics

Lyrics by Tena Clark
Music by Tena Clark/Tim Heintz

Intro-
I raise my arms to the sky
On my knees I pray
I’m not afraid anymore
I will walk through that door
Walk, dance, rise
Walk, dance, rise

I can see a world where we all live
Safe and free from all oppression
No more rape or incest, or abuse
Women are not a possession

You’ve never owned me, don’t even know me I’m not invisible, I’m simply wonderful I feel my heart for the first time racing I feel alive, I feel so amazing

I dance cause I love
Dance cause I dream
Dance cause I’ve had enough
Dance to stop the screams
Dance to break the rules
Dance to stop the pain
Dance to turn it upside down
Its time to break the chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain
Dance, rise
Dance, rise

In the middle of this madness, we will stand I know there is a better world Take your sisters & your brothers by the hand Reach out to every woman & girl

This is my body, my body’s holy
No more excuses, no more abuses
We are mothers, we are teachers,
We are beautiful, beautiful creatures

I dance cause I love
Dance cause I dream
Dance cause I’ve had enough
Dance to stop the screams
Dance to break the rules
Dance to stop the pain
Dance to turn it upside down
It’s time to break the chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain

Dance Break Inst.

Dance, rise
Dance, rise

Sister won’t you help me, sister won’t you rise x4

Dance, rise
Dance, rise

Sister won’t you help me, sister won’t you rise x4

This is my body, my body’s holy
No more excuses, no more abuses
We are mothers, we are teachers,
We are beautiful, beautiful creatures

I dance cause I love
Dance cause I dream
Dance cause I’ve had enough
Dance to stop the screams
Dance to break the rules
Dance to stop the pain
Dance to turn it upside down
Its time to break the chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain, oh yeah
Break the Chain

(Repeat chorus)


Video commentary:

On June 11, 2011 we held our second public shoot, asking random people off the street about their perspectives on forgiveness. That is when we met Princess.

North Minneapolis, MN

Director: Dawn Mikkelson
Interview Camera: Heidi Tungseth
Additional Camera: Matt Ehling
Edit: Monte Swann


I have only watched some preview scenes of the movie “The Hunger Games” in Youtube, besides the official trailer. At first, I thought the movie sounded cool, as there was much talk about the great acting performances, which I came across when I was doing research for the movie review for my magazine project, hence I decided to check out the preview videos. But I felt disturbed upon watching a scene of a teenage girl running towards another teenage girl armed with an axe to attack her. Maybe the message of the story is about the sad effects of living in a dystopian society, but nevertheless I can’t help feeling that stories like these based on violence and gore tend to be part of propaganda themselves, and they are probably being marketed to feed the attention of the society that is hungry for action, to stimulate their senses (and perhaps also to escape from having to explore and deal with the inner depths of their own souls).

I think there is a certain danger that over-exposure to media that are filled with violence can cause people to become numb to our basic human emotions and sensibilities. At the same time, I believe everyone has a dark and light side in themselves, and when people feed only on one side, either light or dark, they tend to harm themselves and others indirectly, by becoming either too legalistic and judgmental (by preaching behaviour modification and enforcing conformity – don’t we all hate moralising and condemning sermons by preachers, however well-meaning?), or too soulless and callous (by accepting harm done to a neighbour as a necessity in the name of revenge or survival).

In the face of all this, how can we make a change? I don’t know. I suppose each of us has to find our own answer because ultimately, we do not want to impose our own beliefs or convictions onto other people too. For me, I will choose the way of meditation and contemplation because I am realising more and more that we are all connected as One, so if one being is hurt, the rest of the beings are hurt as well. Similarly, if one of us is peaceful, the rest of us will benefit as well. Maybe the realisation of our interconnectedness and oneness will be able to override the society’s mindset of “us” versus “them” that is based on the illusion of ego and separation.

I believe peace is possible, and yet it is not something that is boring or ethereal or unrealistic. There is a difference between fake niceness and genuine kindness, which I find lacking in the movie story. Maybe it is intended to be that way, since people will watch and despair at how the characters struggle to make sense of the brutal reality of being ruled by a totalitarian government and having their human dignity snatched away by the harsh circumstances in which they have to fight for survival.

Maybe a buddhist might willingly give his or her life in such a scenario. Or anyone who has awakened to the truth of our oneness. To die in such a brutal reality may seem like losing, but then again, much of the society tends to think only in terms of good and bad, or us and them. We can move beyond the concept of duality in order to embrace the totality of our existence. Life is more than “winning” or “losing”. In a war, no one is truly a winner. No wonder by the end of the story (the third part of the trilogy), even those who survive the war (Hunger Games) through bloodshed and violence are left feeling forlorn, each a jaded and crestfallen being. Why? Because the senseless killing of one another does not honour our true Self. I feel that each of us intuitively knows we are designed to be loved and to love. We are beloved and innocent children of Divine Love at our innermost core, when all else is stripped away, when all the conditionings of the society/religion/politics are removed.

Related post:

“Hunger Games–Disturbing? Indeed…”



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