“Jealousy is Born out of comparison” Osho. And we have been taught to compare, we have been conditioned to compare, always compare. Somebody else has a better house, somebody else has a more beautiful body, somebody else has more money, somebody else has a more charismatic personality. Compare, go on comparing yourself with everybody else you pass by, and great jealousy will be the outcome; it is the by-product of the conditioning for comparison.
But why does the idea of the other enter in your head in the first place? Again let me remind you: because you have not allowed your own juices to flow; you have not allowed your own blissfulness to grow, you have not allowed your own being to bloom. Hence you feel empty inside, and you look at everybody’s outside because only the outside can be seen.
This post reminds me of a Chinese saying, “Ren bi ren, qi shi ren” (in transliteration, hanyu pinyin), meaning “There is no end to comparison. When people compare themselves with others, there will always be someone better than themselves in some ways. It is a sure recipe for disappointment and jealousy, which will only drive people to an early grave.” So yes, self-love is essential to living a life of peace and joy.
Osho’s article on “Jealousy is born out of comparison” is edutaining (both educational and entertaining) because of his sense of wisdom and humour. I think besides being conditioned by the society to compare, it is probably part of the human psyche to compare. We all tend to think the grass looks greener on the other side, and the food on someone else’s plate looks more delicious than the food on our own plate and we wish we should have ordered what that person ordered. 🙂 It takes a conscious practice to remind ourselves not to compare ourselves with others. For example, regarding the reality of people’s life in Facebook, we may never know whether other people are truly happy with their own life.
Like what Osho concluded in his article, people can only look at everybody’s outside because only the outside can be seen. But how well they are doing inside no one can see. I thought this picture of two carrots illustrates the truth very well. https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10150551492148141&set=a.378605758140.163024.14524668140&type=1&theater Some people may look like they have a lot of problems outside because they share about them openly, but in fact they are building up their roots/foundation deeper into the ground because by venting or sharing their problems or struggles they are actually making further inroads to gaining wisdom from other people’s viewpoints and reflecting on their lives and making better decisions and as a result they emerge stronger and wiser and more emotionally stable. I would say that is success, according to the picture illustration. As a saying goes: Beautiful people don’t just happen – they have gone through life’s journey, and have developed a better understanding of life, that fills them with compassion, gentleness and a deep, loving concern.