Yes, it is part of the human psyche for us to be a little guarded in our conversations with others at times. We usually do not want to show our emotions too much (yet) as it can be hard to gauge how others would respond. So in such times, it is normal and understandable for us to downplay our feelings a little in conversations, with comments such as “I’m just kidding”, “I don’t know”, “I don’t care” or “It’s ok”.
As noted in the above quote, there is usually a deeper truth or feeling underneath these comments, and it takes an extra sensitivity on the part of the receiver to pick up the nuances behind the verbal cues to understand the feelings of the speaker. For example, in this video, I guess Chris Rock would probably grin and tell the reporters “I’m just kidding” about his message, but behind his apparent joke there is a little truth that he is actually seriously appalled by the racial stereotypes and discrimination, just that he chose to bring across his message in a light-hearted manner so that it is more well received by the audience; thus, delivering the lesson to them in a less painful but no less truthful way, since they can laugh at themselves and come to the realisation of the truth at the same time.
Similarly, many a times when people say “I don’t care” or “it’s ok”, they do care a little or they do hurt a little, but they chose not to bring it to others’ attention and prefer to keep their feelings to themselves, unless they feel comfortable to share about their feelings more openly when the timing feels right or when they are assured that the listeners will not judge them but accept them for who they are and how they are feeling.
- Beauty of the Human Psyche (dranilj1.wordpress.com)
- Does the media influence racial stereotyping? (doingthingswithmedia.wordpress.com)
- “Memories, Dreams, Reflections”: Carl Gustav Jung (adamcmadison.wordpress.com)