Posted in Identity

Inspirational quotes on courage

“If you are going to be courageous, an example for all those who are ready to step into their power, then you must be willing to show the world all of who you are. You must have the guts to throw off the chains of modesty and mediocrity in order to be the light that the world needs.”

~ Debbie Ford

I learnt of Debbie Ford’s passing recently from OM Times email newsletter which I subscribed to, and her presence is missed by many, though her legacy of works of inspiration continues to live on to encourage many more people.

Yes, it takes courage to embrace our full potential, our uniqueness, our authentic self to be the light the world needs. It reminds me of a similar quote by Marianne Williamson about being our true beautiful and powerful self that encourages others to let their own light shine too.

“Our greatest fear is our light not our darkness that most frightens us

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.

Marianne Williamson
Marianne Williamson is participating in the “I Can Do It!” conference, Vancouver. May 5-6, 2012

A recent interview by Omega with Debbie Ford also includes her view on courage.

Debbie: “What is often called courage is when you muscle up and barrel through. It’s forceful, often without thinking or feeling. But the courage I’m talking about is this divine inner strength that everyone is born with, a strength to be your most authentic self and to take powerful actions consistent with your loving, compassionate heart.”

Posted in Freedom, Inspiration

Quote by Philip José Farmer (January 26, 1918 – February 25, 2009)

“I do believe that man is a rope between animal and superman. But the superman I’m thinking of isn’t Nietzsche’s. The real superhuman, man or woman, is the person who’s rid himself of all prejudices, neuroses, and psychoses, who realizes his full potential as a human being, who acts naturally on the basis of gentleness, compassion, and love, who thinks for himself and refuses to follow the herd. That’s the genuine dyed-in-the-wool superman.”

– Philip José Farmer (January 26, 1918 – February 25, 2009)

I learnt from Wikipedia that Philip José Farmer was an American author who wrote mainly science fiction novels, and he was influenced by Mark Twain and Carl Jung. I note that his view of a real superhuman is a man or woman who has overcome all prejudices, neuroses and psychoses, who realises one’s full potential as a human being, who is gentle, compassionate and loving, and thinks for oneself and does not have a herd mentality. That, to me, would describe someone who is a well adjusted and self respecting person, an independent and possibly postmodern thinker with a heart of compassion, in the likes of enlightened people such as Jesus, Buddha, Martin Luther King Jr, John Lennon and so on. I think anyone can realise their potential to be such a superhuman so long as they rediscover their true identity and are willing to let go of the expectations and conditionings of the society, organised religions, propaganda and so on.

His quote reminds me of similar quotes by Ralph Waldo Emerson, such as:

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”

“It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Posted in Inspiration, Truth, Unity and harmony

Seize the day – Mike Myers

Below is a thoughtful post by Mike Myers.

“Today I put 1200 screws into 100 face frames. So basically that freed up my brain to think about other stuff. Like why am I here? Where am I going and where was I before here?

What if the New Agers are right?
What if we all are one?
What if we had complete intimacy with each other before we came to earth?
And what if this is our first experience in a body?
What if our insecurities are really rooted in separation anxiety from each other? Maybe we really miss the that unity with each other?
What if this is our first time where we can’t hear each other’s thoughts?
What if before we came here we never had to guess each other’s motives?
What if we chose to come to earth because we wanted our souls to grow in wisdom, love, forgiveness, knowledge and compassion?
What if our enemies were our best of friends in a previous life?
What if the rich and famous are the beginners in their soul refinement and the poor minorities are ready to graduate?
What if suffering produces substance to the soul?
What if our souls have no gender and that’s why people of the same sex love each other?
What if we’re no longer human after we die?
What if this is the first time I’ve been given the opportunity to have a self?
What if I was so intertwined with the rest of you that selfishness wasn’t even a possibility for me then?

Why do I have these thoughts? Because I’ve tasted true intimacy. I’ve been intimate with both men and women in a non-sexual way. I’ve experienced compassion within myself that moved me like nothing else ever has. It’s beautiful to feel someone’s hurt. It’s a privilege that someone would let me feel their pain. And of course it’s exhilarating to be so supportive of someone that you explode with pride when they accomplish the seemingly impossible.

I don’t think life is a test. I think life is a college. And maybe we’re not graded on our performance. Maybe we’re all just auditing the classes that interest us. And maybe everything I just wrote is total bullshit. Either way, I’m not dogmatic about life anymore. I have lots of questions now. And that gives my soul a sense of awe that it didn’t have when I knew everything when I was a Christian.

I hope we all enjoy earth while we can. We’re not here very long. So seize the day!”

-Mike Myers

Being free from the institutional religion does encourage us to think beyond the theological box, freely and boldly indeed. I like the questions he posed – some of them are similar to the questions that I have considered before, such as the possibility that we are all one and the new agers are right (since they subscribe to ancient wisdom that depends on intuition). He has asked many other good questions based on reason and observation – such as “What if suffering produces substance to the soul?” I think that may be a mystery that unfurls and unfolds over time because many a times, we see and experience suffering in ourselves or in others as a means to become more compassionate and understanding, which otherwise might not have developed if we had an easier life.

This in turn may answer the question “What if the rich and famous are the beginners in their soul refinement and the poor minorities are ready to graduate?” It seems to me that, apart from some rag-to-riches stories of how hardship builds people’s character and compassion, most of the people who are addicted to fame and wealth (in business, entertainment, religious, political circles, etc) are spiritually impoverished compared to those who do not have as much and are free from such addictions – maybe that’s what Jesus means by “blessed are the poor (in spirit), for theirs is the kingdom of heaven” to describe the paradoxical reality.

Overall, I agree with his view that life is a college in which we learn and “grow in wisdom, love, forgiveness, knowledge and compassion”. There may be no definite answers to the mystery behind the afterlife, but it is always worth being open to the possibilities of being connected to the eternal realm and being temporary visitors on earth, as described in the Australian Aboriginal proverb in this blog.

Posted in Identity, Inspiration, Love, Meditation

Be a mirror of your own greatness within

“What I’m about to share has been the most freeing realization in my adult life.

I am a mirror. I am a mirror to my kids. I reflect who they are back to them. And as their mirror, I look at them first. And what I see in them, I reflect back to them. And I see greatness… I see pure hearts… I see smiles and I see love.

Kids are smart, extremely smart. And their souls are sensitive, extremely sensitive. They KNOW if you’re proud or disappointed in them. They pay attention to your words, the tone they’re spoken in and even the pauses between them. They study the expressions on your face and the shape of your eyes. You can’t fool them. Every kid knows how their parent feels about them.

And here’s the thing… If your approval of your child has any connection to their “performance”…. you are an insecure parent. You have never known unconditional love. You have never had someone who believes in you.

Some of our religious parents are looking into a broken God for their reflection. Jehovah isn’t a loving father. Jehovah is an insecure tyrant just like the broken men who created him.

There are millions of beautiful kids out there who are looking in dirty and broken mirrors. And they think it’s them, when really it’s the mirror who’s broken. The kids are fine. They don’t need fixing.

To reflect greatness back to your kids, you must first see the greatness in you. It wasn’t until my adulthood that I started to see myself clearly. I thought of myself as a 5, but others said, “No Mike, you’re a 10 in every way.” Do you know how healing that is? Do you know how empowering that is?

Everyone has greatness in them. Whether you see it or not depends on the clearness of the mirrors around you. Be a clear mirror… especially to your kids. :-)”

– Mike Myers

Yes, we are a mirror in which others see a reflection of ourselves. As he put it, in order for us to reflect greatness to others, we need to see greatness in ourselves first. This relates to a similar message Jim Palmer shared in his recent blog – that by healing ourselves, we heal others too. Similarly, when we learn to see greatness in ourselves, we can reflect greatness back to others.

From the parent-child perspective, this is especially important, because children grow up mirroring the same things they see in their parents. For those of us who grow up in broken or dysfunctional families (as every family is dysfunctional in some ways), whether we have parents who are emotionally or physically absent, or who are even abusive towards us, we can trace back to the roots of their mistreatment – they would have experienced brokenness in themselves, and missed seeing the greatness in themselves, hence we have inadvertently become the unfortunate recipients of their mistreatments.

However, with the insights obtained through our experiences and our meditation as we breathe and look deeply into the nature of things, we begin to understand life with regard to our mirror reflection to one another. We can then take appropriate steps to create a new reality – it is never too late to realise and learn the truths, so as to change the course of things, determinedly focusing on healing ourselves and overcoming self-rejection, so that not only we rise up from the hurtful past to embrace life with greater peace and fortitude, we will also impact others – our loved ones, our future generations, and whoever else with whom we will interact at some points in time – with our inner peace and strength.

Posted in Identity, Love

“You are perfect. Accept yourself.” Robert Rutherford

“If you don’t realize your perfection. you will have trouble accepting yourself. This will cause you to project that rejection on others. The same measure is realized in the amount of rejection you give yourself and the amount you push away those around you.

You are perfect. Accept yourself. Love yourself. Loving and accepting others will follow suit.”

Robert Rutherford

Yes, it is so important to realise our own perfection and learn to love and accept ourselves for who we are. As the saying goes, “all love is self-love”, so only when we are able to love and accept outselves can we really love and accept others too. This will also resolve the feeling of rejection of self and others.

I think that is what Jesus taught about loving our neighbours as ourselves – the focus/emphasis is on loving ourselves first. This reminds me of a similar reflective quote by Henri Nouwen too – to remind ourselves we are Beloved and worthy.

“Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody.” … [My dark side says,] I am no good… I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the “Beloved.” Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.”

(From “You are the beloved – a Henri Nouwen quote“)

Posted in Healing

“By healing ourselves, we heal the world.” Jim Palmer

“By healing ourselves, we heal the world.” – Jim Palmer

This insightful blog by Jim Palmer has perfect resonance with me and is worth remembering over and over again, since it is easy to forget the deep insights when I am distracted and overwhelmed by the world’s problems. I agree that by healing ourselves, we heal others because we are all interconnected like cells in a human body. I remember Thich Nhat Hanh once shared that we can only give to others what we have, referring to peace. In the same way, when we are in good health can we help others to be healthy, so to speak.

As Jim Palmer also noted, while we want to help impact the world and address the problems of inequality and so on, the best way to start is ourselves, because as we remind ourselves of our oneness with the universe or the divine and dwell in peace and joy, we are actually helping to send peaceful vibrations that heal not only ourselves but also the world around us, near and far.

Like what Thich Nhat Hanh said:
– “If we are peaceful, if we are happy, we can blossom like a flower, and everyone in our family, our entire society, will benefit from our peace.”

This is a timeless reminder for me as well.


Posted in Equality, Love, Peace, Unity and harmony

An Ancient American Indian Prophecy

“There will come a day when people of all races, colors, and creeds will put aside their differences. They will come together in love, joining hands in unification, to heal the Earth and all Her children. They will move over the Earth like a great Whirling Rainbow, bringing peace, understanding and healing everywhere they go. Many creatures thought to be extinct or mythical will resurface at this time; the great trees that perished will return almost overnight. All living things will flourish, drawing sustenance from the breast of our Mother, the Earth.

The great spiritual Teachers who walked the Earth and taught the basics of the truths of the Whirling Rainbow Prophecy will return and walk amongst us once more, sharing their power and understanding with all. We will learn how to see and hear in a sacred manner. Men and women will be equals in the way Creator intended them to be; all children will be safe anywhere they want to go. Elders will be respected and valued for their contributions to life. Their wisdom will be sought out. The whole Human race will be called The People and there will be no more war, sickness or hunger forever.”

~ An Ancient American Indian Prophecy

Posted in Freedom, Psychology

How To Overcome Any Fear

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Fear is The Greatest Energy Vampire!
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As Ralph Smart shared, it is an ongoing process, even as he has learnt some ways to overcome any kind of fear in life. So far I have listened to the first few minutes of the video in which he shared about embracing our fears, which he defined as self-created feelings that are not real. He also shared about not externalising our power to other people so that we can take back our power and not give others a chance to control or dominate us. I also agree and remind myself that fear does not exist in the present moment as it only exists in the past or in the future. This is something I am reminding myself as often as I can, to be here/present now, wherever I may be.

Posted in Love

How to Love Truly

“Everywhere in the world people are in search of love, for everyone is convinced that love alone can save the world; love alone can make life meaningful and worth living. But how very few understand what love really is and how it arises in the human heart. It is so frequently equated with good feelings for others, with benevolence or nonviolence or service. But these things in themselves are not love.

Love springs from awareness. It is only inasmuch as you see someone as he or she really is here and now and not as they are in your memory or your desire or in your imagination or projection that you can truly love them; otherwise, it is not the person that you love but the idea that you have formed of this person.”

Anthony de Mello

Yes, true love goes deeper than mere affection and attraction towards another person, as it involves loving and accepting the person in the totality and reality of who she/he is. It involves appreciating the person’s true beauty that is both inward and outward, and understanding the person’s unique and authentic self. Like what he said, love springs from awareness, which goes beyond the superficiality of appearance or imagination or projection and penetrates deep into the innermost being of the person. True love sees beyond the apparent humanness that the world sees, and recognises the person is a human being with a divine nature who shines when the person is true to his/her authentic self.

“You are a divine being who shines when you are your authentic self.”

Jenny (Soul Inspiring)

Posted in Peace, Rest

Zen and the art of doing nothing

Sea shore
Sea shore (Photo credit:

I came across this interesting website while finding time to rest from work. I thought it is a simple yet important exercise to do nothing for 2 minutes, though it may not be as easy as it sounds, since I had to resist the urge to just do something even while I was resting earlier on, such as checking emails and so on. But I think listening to the sound of the waves in the website is helpful because somehow the sound of the waves on the seashore resembles the sound of my own breathing, which has a calming and relaxing effect on me.

I suppose I am not alone in facing this because this Zen article also recognises that doing nothing is an art that needs to be honed and practised over time. The article concluded that the art of doing nothing cannot be mastered overnight and it will take hours and hours of practice, of hard work, but we will enjoy every minute of it, and we can try it today.