“If you don’t realize your perfection. you will have trouble accepting yourself. This will cause you to project that rejection on others. The same measure is realized in the amount of rejection you give yourself and the amount you push away those around you.
You are perfect. Accept yourself. Love yourself. Loving and accepting others will follow suit.”
Yes, it is so important to realise our own perfection and learn to love and accept ourselves for who we are. As the saying goes, “all love is self-love”, so only when we are able to love and accept outselves can we really love and accept others too. This will also resolve the feeling of rejection of self and others.
I think that is what Jesus taught about loving our neighbours as ourselves – the focus/emphasis is on loving ourselves first. This reminds me of a similar reflective quote by Henri Nouwen too – to remind ourselves we are Beloved and worthy.
“Over the years, I have come to realize that the greatest trap in our life is not success, popularity, or power, but self-rejection. Success, popularity, and power can indeed present a great temptation, but their seductive quality often comes from the way they are part of the much larger temptation to self-rejection. When we have come to believe in the voices that call us worthless and unlovable, then success, popularity, and power are easily perceived as attractive solutions. The real trap, however, is self-rejection. As soon as someone accuses me or criticizes me, as soon as I am rejected, left alone, or abandoned, I find myself thinking, “Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody.” … [My dark side says,] I am no good… I deserve to be pushed aside, forgotten, rejected, and abandoned. Self-rejection is the greatest enemy of the spiritual life because it contradicts the sacred voice that calls us the “Beloved.” Being the Beloved constitutes the core truth of our existence.”