Posted in Freedom, Inspiration, Unity and harmony

You Are Not Alone (How to Live Your Dreams No Matter What)

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The Universe Always Sends Someone!
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Here’s sharing this recent video message, which I find timely and timeless. Ralph Smart revisited his message about how we are not alone in not being able to fit in the society or the family because there are many kindred spirits going through similar sufferings as us, and we can take heart in knowing that in our personal retreats from the world, we are actually reconnecting with the universe within us, and experiencing the freedom to be ourselves and express who we really are 100%, knowing we are infinite beings on a human journey.


Posted in Healing, Psychology

“The Roots Of Violence Are NOT Unknown” – Alice Miller

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“The Roots of Violence are NOT Unknown
The misled brain and the banned emotions

The Facts:

1. The development of the human brain is use-dependent. The brain develops its structure in the first four years of life, depending on the experiences the environment offers the child. The brain of a child who has mostly loving experiences will develop differently from the brain of a child who has been treated cruelly.

2. Almost all children on our planet are beaten in the first years of their lives. They learn from the start violence, and this lesson is wired into their developing brains. No child is ever born violent. Violence is NOT genetic, it exists because beaten children use, in their adult lives, the lesson that their brains have learned.

3. As beaten children are not allowed to defend themselves, they must suppress their anger and rage against their parents who have humiliated them, killed their inborn empathy, and insulted their dignity. They will take out this rage later, as adults, on scapegoats, mostly on their own children. Deprived of empathy, some of them will direct their anger against themselves (in eating disorders, drug addiction, depression etc.), or against other adults (in wars, terrorism, delinquency etc.)

Questions and Answers:

Q: Parents beat their children without a second thought, to make them obedient. Nobody, except a very small minority, protests against this dangerous habit. Why is the logical sequence (from being a misled victim to becoming a misleading perpetrator) totally ignored world-wide? Why have even the Popes, responsible for the moral behaviour of many millions of believers, until now never informed them that beating children is a crime?

A: Because almost ALL of us were beaten, and we had to learn very early that these cruel acts were normal, harmless, and even good for us. Nobody ever told us that they were crimes against humanity. The wrong, immoral, and absurd lesson was wired into our developing brains, and this explains the emotional blindness governing our world.

Q: Can we free ourselves from the emotional blindness we developed in childhood?

A: We can – at least to some degree – liberate ourselves from this blindness by daring to feel our repressed emotions, including our fear and forbidden rage against our parents who had often scared us to death for periods of many years, which should have been the most beautiful years of our lives. We can’t retrieve those years. But thanks to facing our truth we can transform ourselves from the children who still live in us full of fear and denial into responsible, well informed adults who regained their empathy, so early stolen from them. By becoming feeling persons we can no longer deny that beating children is a criminal act that should be forbidden on the whole planet.


Caring for the emotional needs of our children means more than giving them a happy childhood. It means to enable the brains of the future adults to function in a healthy, rational way, free from perversion and madness. Being forced to learn in childhood that hitting children is a blessing for them is a most absurd, confusing lesson, one with the most dangerous consequences: This lesson as such, together with being cut off from the true emotions, creates the roots of violence.
© Alice Miller “

I realise that violence is not inborn and is learnt from adults. I think when little children are hit by someone, their natural tendency is to hit back (or to move away from harm). Yet if they are not allowed to defend themselves, they will suppress their anger against their parents who hurt them, as noted by the video, and if left unresolved, the energy will surface in future in the form of aggression towards others or oneself. I am learning that the way to be free from the unresolved feelings of anger and hurt is to face them and express them in safe ways, such as meditating, sharing about it with close friends, feeling the emotions, sports and other physical activities and so on.

I think most parents tend to treat their own children based on how they used to be treated by their own parents when they were young. Hence, they often resort to using physical force to punish their children because they lack emotional resources and parenting skills. Traditional cultures in conservative societies tend to reinforce the idea that spanking or caning is normal too. But I think it is possible to be free from the vicious cycle in families when new parents choose not to make the same mistakes as their own parents, and make efforts to bring up their own children with loving guidance and gentle nurturing instead.

Posted in Psychology

Emotions, Feelings, and Decisions

I have checked out the article “Emotions, Feelings, and Decisions – Understanding the Mystery”, which shared about the distinction between emotions and feelings – that “emotions are the physical reactions we have to certain stimuli”, whereas feelings “are the thoughts we have in our mind after those emotions occur, a reaction to the signals sent by the body.” I agree emotions and feelings are “crucially important to human functioning”, as I am coming to realise that these are natural part of being human, which serves the purpose of “constructing the self, making decisions, culture, and morality”, as the article put it.

Being in touch with our feelings does help us to make better decisions as we are listening to our heart and our body in order to know how to take care of our health, for example, and how to relate to others better through empathy or sympathy, as noted by the article. So instead of following the societal or religious ways of suppressing emotions, I am learning to acknowledge and practise awareness of my emotions and listen to my feelings, allowing them to have expression that can guide me in making better decisions in life, as well as enabling me to relate better to others who may be going through similar experiences as me.