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Protecting my vibe

One of the hardest things to do perhaps is to love and accept ourselves and be gentle with ourselves and others at all times, as we live in constant interactions with society.

We are constantly being judged by others, no matter how well we conduct ourselves, how well we speak, how good our intentions are, how much we seek to improve or learn from our mistakes, etc.

If people judge us, perhaps it is because they haven’t learnt to love and accept themselves as they really are too. (The same goes for us, as we all are on a journey.)

Self-love and self-respect is so important that it requires practice on a constant basis, with the need for mindful breathing, for continual awareness.

How do I know when I haven’t really loved and accepted myself for who I really am fully?

  • When I fail to be gentle with myself because I have allowed shame to cripple me instead of using guilt and contrition as an impetus to grow and learn to do better
  • When I don’t carry myself with respect and dignity because I forget to be mindful and watch my body posture
  • When I judge others, because I haven’t learn how to integrate my light and dark sides
  • When I place expectations on others to fulfil my needs, not realising I am already complete and whole
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Same and different

There is a time and season for everything, I suppose.

A time to like watching movies, where people act larger than life, and a time to relate to reality shows or documentaries, where people behave the way they do in the off-screen world.

The human nature and condition remains the same. There is something about the teachings of ancient wise people such as Buddha that endures over many lifetimes and generations, such as the teachings on impermanence and suffering.

Yes, I have gripes about the modern world, and I do vent every now and then.

But if I were born in early BC or AD, I suppose there would still be problems in the world. Power struggles, inequality, injustice and so on.

Maybe due to technological advances and Internet, we become more informed about the problems.

Environmental destruction and pollution and extinction of animal and plant series are increasing at an unprecedented rate.

How can we not despair?

But on the other side of the coin, we do see some improvements in terms of literacy, convenience of travelling, material comfort, infrastructure, and so on.

Is the cost of “development” worth it?

I don’t know because how do we quantify or qualify the costs and benefits accurately?

Furthermore, it may benefit some but not others, at any point in time.

And sometimes it might seem to benefit at first, but the cost seems to outweigh the benefits later on, and vice versa.

Perhaps life is as abstract or as concrete as we make it out to be. Simple or complex? We choose.

Duality and singularity seems to go hand in hand, for there cannot be one without the other.