On looking back, it looks like the public school education system that I grew up in has far more repercussions than I probably realised. The need (or the pressure) to keep up an appearance of performing, whether in studies or socialising or participating in discussions or conversations, seem relentlessly pervasive in every aspect of our lives. Why was I shunned or ignored in schools, or later in life, in social outings such as care group meetings? It seems that to be popular and extroverted is the goal of many of my peers. If friendship were to be built on such superficiality, I would rather be not part of it. On hindsight, maybe it was a blessing in disguise that I didn’t – and couldn’t – fit into the crowd, as much as it felt painful then.
“Segmet.net” provides critical and rare information on Breathing and what to do to gain the greatest benefit for your own Self. Part 2 contains an actual Breathe-along portion. Enjoy!
I have checked out both videos and watched them twice as her message on how to breathe deeply and consciously is so refreshing and important as a perennial reminder for me. I learnt that breathing deep down into our diaphragms can activate who we really are in our body and help clear the emotional trauma/tension that is stored above/around the diaphragm area. I find her demonstration of the deep breathing useful and I noted that the method of inhaling through the nostrils and exhaling through the mouth slowly at our own pace and space is similar to that taught by a trekking expedition guide when my hiking companions and I were warming up to climb the mountain to go to Cemerong Waterfalls. Talking about water, I find her reminder of staying hydrated in order to eliminate toxins from our body helpful too. I enjoyed listening to the warm and informative talk by the speaker.
“In our work to end modern slavery, we must find the time to take care of ourselves, and to take care of the present moment. By doing so, we can find some relative peace in our body and mind to continue our work. We need to recognise and embrace our own suffering, our anger, fear, and despair so that the energy of compassion can be maintained in our hearts. When we have more clarity in our mind, we will have compassion not only for the victims, but for the traffickers themselves. When we see that the traffickers have suffered, we can help them wake up and stop what they are doing. Our compassion can help transform them into friends and allies of our cause.
“In order to sustain our work of compassion, we all need a spiritual community to support us and protect us – a real community, where there is true brotherhood and sisterhood, compassion and understanding. We should not do this work as cavaliers seuls, as lone warriors. The roots of modern slavery run deep, and the causes and conditions, the networks and structures supporting it are complex. That is why we need to build a community that can continue this work to protect human life not just until 2020, but long into the future.
“The world in which we live is globalized, and so too is this new form of slavery, that is connected to the economic, political and social systems. Therefore our ethics and morality also need to be globalized. A new global order calls for a new global ethic. We have to sit down together, as people of many traditions, as we are doing now, to find the causes of this suffering. If we look deeply together, with clarity, calm and peace, we will understand the causes of modern slavery, and we can find a way out.”
(From Thich Nhat Hanh’s Speech at the Vatican, December 2, 2014 – SUMMIT OF WORLD FAITH LEADERS TO END MODERN SLAVERY & HUMAN TRAFFICKING)
When we step out of the matrix of the societal system, we naturally step out of fear, oppression and the illusion of separation. Anything that causes people to feel superior over others, whether it is nationalism, competition, racism, religion or education based on so-called meritocracy and achievements, etc, is an illusion and delusion.
It is misleading somewhat to evaluate people based solely on presentation skills, public speaking skills, and so on in formal education because if someone has the passion, vision and compassion to promote ideas that liberate and empower others, they will naturally find ways and means to get their message across, regardless of how well they score in academics or how well they perform the eyes of the establishments. In addition, degrees, diplomas and doctorates do not measure a person’s character as these paper qualifications tend to denote mainly how indoctrinated and conformist they are to be accepted by the system. Rather, it is kindness that matters, as it has a lasting impact in our hearts at the end of the day.
A system or country or institution that emphasises achievements and material “success” only tends to breed the fear of “failure” and fear of being rejected or ridiculed, and as a result, it tends to limit or inhibits personal freedom, creativity, and potential to develop one’s gifts.
This lively RSA Animate, adapted from Dan Pink’s talk at the RSA, illustrates the hidden truths behind what really motivates us at home and in the workplace.
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I learnt from this excellent video presentation about the three factors that lead to better performance and personal satisfaction:
- autonomy, or the desire to be self-directed to engage in doing something, enabling us to be creative in our own space and at our own time
- mastery, or the urge to get better at stuff, as we experience fun and satisfaction without any need for money, fame or credit card
- purpose, or a sense of calling to do voluntary work to help and serve others without any need or desire for monetary reward
I also believe that humans can be motivated by altruism and compassion instead of business transactions to invent and implement things outside of the money system, such as in the resource-based system or indigenous societies that practise a communal and egalitarian culture and lifestyle, where resources are shared freely and generously in the community.