"Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest." (Matthew 11:28, Message)

Embracing our own suffering maintains the energy of compassion in our hearts


“In our work to end modern slavery, we must find the time to take care of ourselves, and to take care of the present moment. By doing so, we can find some relative peace in our body and mind to continue our work. We need to recognise and embrace our own suffering, our anger, fear, and despair so that the energy of compassion can be maintained in our hearts. When we have more clarity in our mind, we will have compassion not only for the victims, but for the traffickers themselves. When we see that the traffickers have suffered, we can help them wake up and stop what they are doing. Our compassion can help transform them into friends and allies of our cause.

“In order to sustain our work of compassion, we all need a spiritual community to support us and protect us – a real community, where there is true brotherhood and sisterhood, compassion and understanding. We should not do this work as cavaliers seuls, as lone warriors. The roots of modern slavery run deep, and the causes and conditions, the networks and structures supporting it are complex. That is why we need to build a community that can continue this work to protect human life not just until 2020, but long into the future.

“The world in which we live is globalized, and so too is this new form of slavery, that is connected to the economic, political and social systems. Therefore our ethics and morality also need to be globalized. A new global order calls for a new global ethic. We have to sit down together, as people of many traditions, as we are doing now, to find the causes of this suffering. If we look deeply together, with clarity, calm and peace, we will understand the causes of modern slavery, and we can find a way out.”

(From Thich Nhat Hanh’s Speech at the Vatican, December 2, 2014 – SUMMIT OF WORLD FAITH LEADERS TO END MODERN SLAVERY & HUMAN TRAFFICKING)

Stepping out of the matrix

When we step out of the matrix of the societal system, we naturally step out of fear, oppression and the illusion of separation. Anything that causes people to feel superior over others, whether it is nationalism, competition, racism, religion or education based on so-called meritocracy and achievements, etc, is an illusion and delusion.

It is misleading somewhat to evaluate people based solely on presentation skills, public speaking skills, and so on in formal education because if someone has the passion, vision and compassion to promote ideas that liberate and empower others, they will naturally find ways and means to get their message across, regardless of how well they score in academics or how well they perform the eyes of the establishments. In addition, degrees, diplomas and doctorates do not measure a person’s character as these paper qualifications tend to denote mainly how indoctrinated and conformist they are to be accepted by the system. Rather, it is kindness that matters, as it has a lasting impact in our hearts at the end of the day.

A system or country or institution that emphasises achievements and material “success” only tends to breed the fear of “failure” and fear of being rejected or ridiculed, and as a result, it tends to limit or inhibits personal freedom, creativity, and potential to develop one’s gifts.

RSA Animate – Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us

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This lively RSA Animate, adapted from Dan Pink’s talk at the RSA, illustrates the hidden truths behind what really motivates us at home and in the workplace.
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I learnt from this excellent video presentation about the three factors that lead to better performance and personal satisfaction:

  • autonomy, or the desire to be self-directed to engage in doing something, enabling us to be creative in our own space and at our own time
  • mastery, or the urge to get better at stuff, as we experience fun and satisfaction without any need for money, fame or credit card
  • purpose, or a sense of calling to do voluntary work to help and serve others without any need or desire for monetary reward

I also believe that humans can be motivated by altruism and compassion instead of business transactions to invent and implement things outside of the money system, such as in the resource-based system or indigenous societies that practise a communal and egalitarian culture and lifestyle, where resources are shared freely and generously in the community.

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Is It Really Money That Motivates Us? The Science Will Surprise You! (VIDEO)

Why Should Guys Accommodate The Fears Of Females? – Elizabeth Dahl Kingery

“Currently in social media we’re hearing a lot of female cries for understanding from the rest of the world for what it feels like to live in fear. This particular fear of which we speak pertains to being catcalled on the streets, routinely objectified, intimidated at work, harassed in public spaces, threatened for having a strong voice and raped, among other complaints.

If you’ve been watching the whole mess, you’ve also noticed a brute backlash from many men who are confused as to why they should have to pay any attention at all to these fears. An example might be say, allowing a female to ride alone on an elevator so she doesn’t have to worry about you, a big or powerful strange man that could be really nice or really not so nice. Who knows?

And yet this scenario still provides the challenge for us all to balance our own masculine and feminine energies within, which can then manifest in a more respectful, harmonious world without. How does this happen? I’d say it’s through simple awareness. Awakening to the reality of what’s really going on here can naturally result in more empathy, understanding, sensitivity and respect in our relationships. It doesn’t take a bunch of money or brute strength to accomplish this – only enlightenment. And maybe that’s what this existence is all about anyway.

So it is what it is. These unconscious social discriminations are the natural challenges of life that make our evolving existence the adventure that it is. We can’t blame the victims. And yet it isn’t even the men’s fault because it’s an invisible social structure created by mental programming that most of us are born and raised in. It is both everyone’s fault and nobody’s fault. It is the current world in which we live.”

– Elizabeth Dahl Kingery

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The simplest solution to getting enough sleep

“Awareness is half the battle when it comes to sleep, both because most of us underestimate the costs of getting too little and because of the extraordinary value of getting enough. This recognition is the first step in making more sleep a priority.

IF you’re not getting enough sleep, you almost certainly need to go to bed earlier, given that you likely don’t have the option of waking up later than you already do. The key to sleep is to be relaxed, something that is increasingly difficult to achieve given the pressure of our daily lives. One obvious alternative is to use sleep aids. Every form of sleep medication has its drawbacks, from limited hours of effectiveness, to leaving us feeling groggy in the morning, to being addictive. Alcohol, the most common form of self-medication when it comes to sleep, is likewise a double-edge sword. Because it acts initially as a sedative, it does induce sleep, and nearly 30 percent of insomniacs use alcohol at least occasionally to help them fall asleep. But alcohol is also metabolized rapidly by the body, which can lead to physiological withdrawal symptoms in the middle of the night, including frequent awakenings, shallow sleep, and less overall sleep time. In simple terms, the less alcohol you drink and the earlier you drink it, the more deeply you’re likely to sleep through the night.

The best way to fall asleep naturally is to begin quieting down at least thirty to sixty minutes before you turn out the lights. That means avoiding anything stimulating as you get closer to your bedtime – e-mailing and the Internet, mystery novels, highly charged conversations – in favour of whatever you find relaxing: drinking a glass of milk or herbal tea, taking a bath or a shower, listening to music, or even reading a dull book.

Because feeling relaxed is so critical to sleep, it can also be helpful to intentionally “park” your anxieties before you turn out the lights. This simple technique involves writing down what you’re worrying about in a notebook or on a piece of paper. For many of our clients, this strategy has proven to be a surprisingly powerful means of temporarily setting aside concerns that otherwise keep them awake. By writing down what’s on your mind, you effectively give your brain permission to release it from conscious awareness. The same technique can be used when you wake up in the middle of the night, begin to ruminate, and have trouble getting back to sleep.

Setting a specific bedtime is especially critical, because without one, we tend to default back quickly to whatever time we’re used to going to sleep or simply stay up until we feel tired. Once the lights are out, one effective way to relax is deep breathing and progressive relaxation – tightening and releasing muscles throughout your body, starting with your toes and working your way up. For obvious reasons, we sleep better in environments that are dark and quiet. It also helps to sleep in a cool room, which allows the body temperatures to drop, as it’s meant to do during sleep. If you have any doubt about the value of a cool room, think about what it’s like to try to sleep on a hot summer night.

Peter Goettler, who headed investment banking at Barclays Capital until 2008, spent most of his working life feeling sleep-deprived. When that’s the case, it’s nearly always where we begin our work. Goettler went to sleep most nights between 11 pm and midnight and awoke around 5 am, scarcely an unusual sleep pattern for many of our clients. When Goettler got out of bed, he had the first of several cups of coffee to jack himself up. During the day, he often yo-yoed between feeling jittery and tired, especially in the late afternoons.

After working with us, Goettler decided to build a ritual in which he went to bed at 10 pm, got up half an hour later in the morning, and stopped drinking coffee altogether. Almost immediately, he was successful in going to bed earlier. At first, he reported that he found himself waking up earlier and therefore sleeping the same number of hours he always had. It’s a pattern we’ve often seen: the body can become deeply habituated even to sleeping patterns that leave us feeling tired.

We suggested that when he woke up, Goettler simply lie quietly in bed, relaxing as best he could and effectively giving his body permission to sleep longer. Even if it didn’t work immediately, he’d be getting more rest. After a week or so, he did begin sleeping longer. The extended sleep was transformative for him. “I was more rested, I felt better, I thought more clearly, I got less tired as the day wore on, and I had more energy when I got home,” he told us. “I never would have believed an hour more of sleep could make such a difference.” Adequate sleep, we’re convinced, sets the stage for taking more control of every other part of our lives.”

(From Chapter 5 Sleep or Die, “Be Excellent at Anything: The Four Keys To Transforming the Way We Work and Live” (formerly known as “The Way We’re Working isn’t Working: the Four Forgotten Needs that Energize Great Performance” by Tony Schwartz)


Nature is my true home (Meme)

John O’Donohue ~ “A Morning Offering” – Benedictus

“I bless the night that nourished my heart
To set the ghosts of longing free
Into the flow and figure of dream
That went to harvest from the dark
Bread for the hunger no one sees.
All that is eternal in me
Welcome the wonder of this day,
The field of brightness it creates
Offering time for each thing
To arise and illuminate.
I place on the altar of dawn:
The quiet loyalty of breath,
The tent of thought where I shelter,
Wave of desire I am shore to
And all beauty drawn to the eye.
May my mind come alive today
To the invisible geography
That invites me to new frontiers,
To break the dead shell of yesterdays,
To risk being disturbed and changed.
May I have the courage today
To live the life that I would love,
To postpone my dream no longer
But do at last what I came here for
And waste my heart on fear no more.”
~ John O’Donohue ~
“A Morning Offering” – Benedictus (To Bless The Space Between Us.

In this inspiring poem, John O’Donohue has so eloquently expressed the silent prayer of our heart, our inner longing to be increasingly free from the ghosts of yesteryears as we continue to welcome the wonder of this day with all its brightness and beauty.


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